What You Focus on Expands
Welcome to the end of another week! Hope the week was good to you. Mine has been busy! Nothing unusual there. I’ve just concluded my Summer Writing Workshop for children in Gbagada, Lagos and preparing for my Two-Day Writing Workshop this weekend. It’s busy but it’s also a blessing and a privilege to do what I do, and I’m really grateful for that.
Have you heard the phrase “What You Focus on Expands”? It’s one of those phrases that jumped out at me recently, and I decided to incorporate it into my mindset practice, and guess what? I’ve found it to be true! When I’m focusing on challenges and problems, they seem to rapidly multiply (ugh!) making things look worse. But when I focus on things that are going well, and things that I’m grateful for, I seem to have more things to be happy about!
So what does this mean? It means that you have to be deliberate about the thoughts you allow to settle and replay in your mind over and over again. The issue is, most of us are in negative mode almost by default. We tend to minimise or overlook the good things we have, and maximise the problems. Even on the news, we hear more bad stuff than good stuff. So it will take conscious effort to break that pattern, and start focusing on good more than bad.
Let’s try these tips:
- When you notice annoying qualities in other people, pause and think about their good qualities instead.
- If you want wellness, talk and think about all the things that are working on your body.
- If the bills are piling up, instead of lamenting and saying “there’s no money” say, “I’m grateful that I was able to afford (something) today.”
- If you hate your job, stop talking (or thinking) about how miserable you are. Instead, start talking about what you love to do. You might notice a new job opportunity presenting itself!
I have to admit that it takes time and continuous practice to change this thought pattern though (especially when I’m stuck in Lagos traffic and I just want to get to my destination – lol!). But the benefits are totally worth it. What will you start focusing on from now?
In other news: I’m very pleased to announce that one of my clients, Amaka Azie has completed and published her series of African Romance novels: The Obi Trilogy!
Book 1 – Melodies of Love
Book 2 – Thorns and Roses
Book 3 – Starting Over Again
All books are well written, and feature characters that are real, relatable and Nigerian 🙂
The storylines are engaging and addictive, I read each book in one sitting – after thinking “let me just read a few chapters before going to bed” – haha! Amaka is an excellent writer, and I love the way she has brought a new direction to writing Nigerian romance novels. Her novels are not just love stories with Nigerian names, they really reflect our culture and our society.
Anyway, I’ve said enough – go check out the books now! All of them are available in both digital and print versions.
Check them out on Amazon UK, Amazon US, Okadabooks and other retailers.
If you want to become a published author too, be smart. Be like Amaka. Contact me and let’s work together to bring your writing dreams to life! You can start by registering for my Two-Day Intensive Creative Writing Workshop, or my one-to-one coachingpackages. Or if you’ve already written your book, I can show you how to successfully publish it!
I’ve recently set up a Whatsapp group for serious writers who want to work with me, or attend my writing workshops. If that’s you, please click here to join the Whatsapp group.
Thanks for reading, and enjoy the rest of the summer break and the month of August!
To your success.
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